356: The Most Underrated Secret to a Strong Marriage


We often think communication is the key to a strong marriage, but what if the real secret is friendship? In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to actually be friends with your spouse, how that can get lost when life gets busy and kids need more from you, and the ways we’ve each seen this play out in our own marriages. We’re also sharing some simple ways to rebuild connection that can help you find your way back to liking each other again.

Key Topics Covered:

  • How to show genuine interest in your partner’s hobbies and interests

  • The mental load and how sharing responsibilities can create more room for connection

  • Why small acts of kindness and quick repairs matter

  • Ways to turn toward your partner instead of away during frustrating moments

  • Creating more opportunities for fun and shared experiences

LINKS AND RESOURCES:

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Listen to episode 10 with Molly Millwood: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/herself/id1489878793?i=1000466502777 

Grab the books mentioned in the episode:

To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma by Molly Millwood: https://amzlink.to/az0O8mPASBGdi 

Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less by Tiffany Dufu: https://amzlink.to/az0xopPThIfNo 

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzlink.to/az0P01tackqJA 

Read the blog post from The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/thirty-years-later/ 

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